Stemmy’s Romantic Tweets

Stemmy’s Romantic Tweets

Screenshot 2014-08-18 21.24.04So the Urban Dater has a Twitter Follower, @stemmy55. He’s among our most cherished followers, too. I fell that over the last year or so I’ve really been able to connect with him and what motivates him…


More than that, Stemmy has shown that he has a genuine understanding of things and…

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Increasing Your Attraction Score Online

Increasing Your Attraction Score Online

level-up“Damn. Look at the body on that girl. She is unreal man. I’d kill for one night with that. She’s at least a 9. Maybe even a 10…”

We’ve all had these types of conversations with friends right? We’re men. Sometimes we revert back to our 12 year old hormonal school boy alter egos when we see a smoking hot woman, pick apart their looks, and rate them. Its what we do. Cue the chest pumping and…

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A Girl doesn’t Text Back – Use These Texts Instead Of leaving Her Alone

A Girl doesn’t Text Back – Use These Texts Instead Of leaving Her Alone

Screenshot 2014-08-14 10.30.45Texting messages to get good responses from girls is fun if you know how to play your cards right. Just because a girl doesn’t text back does not mean that she is not interested in you.

If you are interested in a girl and wish to get replies from her through text messages, there are ways to do this.

You do not have to send her boring messages telling her that you care for her and so on. Girls…

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7 of the Best and Most Steamy Escort Novels

7 of the Best and Most Steamy Escort Novels

Screenshot 2014-08-13 10.46.19Thanks to the now iconic Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy,the erotic novel has never been more popular. The books may not have been about escorts, but the trilogy had a profound effect on erotica as a whole, with authors falling over themselves to pen a sexy bestseller. So what better profession to write about than escorts? If you’re itching to get your hands on a hot, hot read, then look no further…

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When it’s Men vs. Women, Everybody Loses

When it’s Men vs. Women, Everybody Loses

Screenshot 2014-08-13 10.37.15How many relationships have broken down because of the inability for men and women to see each other as people? “The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was.” Rumi.

After 20 years we failed. I had expectations of what a man should be, his expectations was of someone who would stay.

We dreamed of completing each other, we only broke down to our…

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Perspective is Everything.

Dating perspectivesMy friends were there laughing. I’d just told them how I’d had a threesome with a cute woman and her chihuahua (not really, but the chihuahua really makes for a good punchline) and they were rolling. “Really!!?” the asked. I affirmed their questions… I went on to tell a couple of other woeful dating stories. Again, to more laughs. My friend, Dee, rolled her eyes as her best friend and hubby were…

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The L.A. Gal & The Swinging Denver Executive

The L.A. Gal & The Swinging Denver Executive

Screenshot 2014-08-05 15.59.04While I’m no serial dater, I’ve had my fair share of time in the war of the roses ‘war room’. Being a single 30-something woman living in Los Angeles is a description of war in itself. Being born and raised in the unforgiving city of ‘Lost Angels’, I have a natural resistance to crazies and BSers but for some reason I’m never quite ready for the crazy types encountered in the dating scene.


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The Best Non-Bar Places to Take a First Date (Or Meet One)

The Best Non-Bar Places to Take a First Date (Or Meet One)

beerThe bar is an easy option for a casual first date, but too many happy hour beers will give any veteran dater a weary sense of déjà vu. And as meeting places, they’re often just as disappointing: either no alcohol = no chemistry, or that guy or gal didn’t look so hot under less forgiving lights.

Luckily, urbanites have a slew of non-bar options that make great date territory. Remove the margarita…

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Ask the Urban Dater: Shit or Get Off the Pot Edition

Ask the Urban Dater: Shit or Get Off the Pot Edition


Alright, so here goes… a guy and myself (a girl) started off as friends with benefits. It took forever for us to actually get to the point of us hooking up, and it all started by a lot of texting. Which made it all feel like the start of a relationship, we’ve only had sex once, but we still do other stuff all the time. Then we decided to end things because our whole mutual friend group wasn’t…

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No Chemistry? Get Out of Your Own Way

No Chemistry? Get Out of Your Own Way


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“We didn’t click.”

“There weren’t any sparks.”

“We didn’t have chemistry.”

As a dating coach, I talk with my clients about chemistry a lot. Especially with my female clients. For many women, chemistry is a pretty black-and-white deal. They either have it with their dates or they don’t. And some say they know if it’s there before they’ve even…

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